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Showing posts with label Gratitude. Show all posts

Perspective

I am grateful that I don't put all my eggs into one basket..

In this instance I'm referring to not pinning all my hopes on a particular holiday, such as shall we say... Mother's day.  I will explain.  I spent the day set aside to honour motherhood wrestling with an extremely overtired 2 1/2 year old through church.  Then I left early with the 11 year old so he could be at home to continue his vomiting with a little 24 hour flu bug he had picked up.  The before mentioned toddler, returned home to have a massive poop accident; he's been accident free for over a week now.  The kids made both lunch and dinner laden with carbs that I'm desperately trying to avoid, but it was so OH SO TASTY!.  We played a game of clue that ended with at least 3 people in tears.  Daddy took a 4 hour nap while the kids made him some tasty cookies to thank him for staying up until 2 am to get their pinewood derby cars to the exact 5 oz weight, after working 6 (12-14hour) days in a row. 

I suppose I could have demanded all MY favourite foods, a long hot bubble bath, and some extra pampering but instead I saw that in reality the good outweighs the bad, the toddler is essentially potty trained for which I am THRILLED!  My kids are pretty darn good little chefs!  My husband is a hard worker who goes the extra mile for us and is happily and easily rewarded with chocolate morsels.  My children understand that it's what they do everyday that really matters and not on those set aside mandated days!  All week they had been lamenting that because they don't attend a 'real' school they had nothing for mother's day to give me.  So they washed and vacuumed out the van on Friday.  They filled many cups with weeds flowers to put in the window sill each day.  They routinely make me my breakfast or fill my water bottle so it's always full when I come to it.  There are bed making fairies that regularly beat me to my room while I potty in the mornings.  They are so quiet in the mornings playing and starting their days while I'm still sleeping (some mornings too long!).  They offer to make lunch more than I do. (They're just sick of burritos I'm sure, but then they go and make burritos!!)  They know me so well and don't mind that what I like to do for fun is to organize and purge out a cupboard or tackle a project that's been on my mind, so they even helped me organize the office this week, shredding paper, running errands up and down the stairs to fetch things or put away things, testing pens and markers, shelving books for subjects they'd rather not have to study, labeling electrical cords and rearranging furniture for the 5000th time.  I secretly think they enjoy it also! 

So, yes... I'm glad I don't paint my life based on the picture that only one day of poop, fussing and vomit might create!  Instead I paint a picture with 5 fantastic kids that don't mind calling me Mummy in a world full of Mommy's.  I'm one fortunate Mum. 

A tme to give thanks

2 Corinthians 9: 6-15
"But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully.  Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.  And God is able to make all grace abound toward you ; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work:  (As it is written, He hath dispersed abroad; he hath given to the poor:  his righteousness remaineth for ever.  Now he that ministereth seed to the sower both minister bread for your food, and multiply your seed sown, and increase the fruits of your righteousness;)  Being enriched in every thing to all bountifulness, which causeth through us thanksgiving to God.  For the administration of this service not only supplieth the want of the saints, but is abundant also by many thanksgivings unto God;  Whiles by the experiment of this ministration they glorify God for your professed subjection unto the gospel of Christ, and for your liberal distribution unto them, and unto all men; And by their prayer for you, which long after you for the exceeding grace of God in you.  Thanks be unto God for his unspeakable gift."


As many sit down to a Thanksgiving feast today, I reminisce to over a month ago, Oct. 11th! (yes I'm WAY behind on my blogging!!) (I'm THANKFUL, there's not really a deadline or any penalty for allowing life to take over!)

Anyhoo... We celebrated Canadian Thanksgiving this year!!  I haven't done it before, always celebrating at the end of November.  Not this year.  Instead, I'm THANKFUL for the fabulous Thanksgiving a la Bailey, and now I'm enjoying a wonderful birthday holiday a la moi!  Four days off to do whatever I please.  (It just so happens, as Patrick so happily pointed out, that I please to do a lot when I get the chance)  I do have a list of things I hope to accomplish.  I'm THANKFUL that I set my own schedule and can do as I please!  I'll see how well I do at the end of the weekend! 

For our feast, and my first ever full thanksgiving spread, prepared in my own home, we enjoyed a succulent turkey.  I'm THANKFUL for my fine electric roaster, which left the oven available for baking apple pie, pumpkin pies, a pumpkin/cheesecake roll and delicious home made rolls a la Tina!  I'm THANKFUL for baking skills and wonderful recipes!  We also had all my favourite vegetables since it was Canadian Thanksgiving; brussel sprouts, beets, carrots and parsnips mashed.   I'm THANKFUL for children who indulge me in trying and learning that they too like the new vegetables.  Mashed potatoes, stuffing and gravy were added to appease the masses.  I'm THANKFUL that the masses are so easy to please. Our timing wasn't perfect... the bird was ready long before the rest of the meal but it was still juicy and nice when eventually all the food was ready to eat.  I'm THANKFUL that there wasn't a deadline other than some grumbling tummies.  I'm even more THANKFUL now, for many Thanksgivings at the Ranch where I've only assisted and and we've all enjoyed a delicious feast!

It was a long day.  A lot of work.  Delicious.  Pricey.  I still don't understand the purpose of spending extra money on a lot of food that I almost couldn't fit into my fridge for one meal for one family.  To show gratitude?  Wouldn't showing gratitude be better shown by giving that extra time, energy and money to those who don't have food?   I'm certainly THANKFUL that we have never had to experience going hungry.

So perhaps this will make up for my bah humbug approach that I've taken many years when I refused to do anything beyond making homemade Macaroni and Cheese! 

I'm THANKFUL for so many blessings, for friends, family, life and happiness!!



I am THANKFUL!

The Pacific Rim Perspective

The recent events in the world have set a small fire under my backside when it comes to emergency preparedness...

An earthquake in Japan, then another in Chile less than 12 hours later... neither should affect me... should they? Except indirectly they do in so many ways. My brother lives in Japan with his family so I immediately search the internet for news on the earthquake and which areas of Japan are affected. Then I wake in the morning to news of an earthquake in Chile. Not too concerned I don't know anyone there... but wait... tsunami talk... headed to Hawaii.... of all times for Patrick to be working in Hawaii!! Now all Pacific Ocean coastal areas are on alert... well gee... that's my mother and two sisters and their families on Vancouver Island BC, Canada, my brother and family in Japan (double trouble there now!), and my Dad in California. Good day to climb a mountain I think!!

Yikes... makes me glad to be living so far inland but I must admit to being a little jealous... is that completely inappropriate? I love a great storm. I remember going down to Dallas Rd. in Victoria as a child very late at night and watching the break waters from a big winter storm. The waves were huge... coming up over the road and drenching us. Now this was just a storm not a tsunami... and I've never been wakened by sirens the way Patrick was this morning.. nor have I been evacuated as he is preparing now to do. I think as 'exciting' as that might be.. I'm ok with a humdrum life. I will live vicariously through all the Pacific Ocean dwelling relatives..

In complete honesty... the idea of being in an earthquake is terrifying and considering being evacuated from anywhere for any reason, trying to keep my children safe and my sanity in check... somewhat... is not something I can think about without a sense of panic and dread and sorrow for those who are doing just that as I type. I can only imagine the worry and sadness.

Perspective is an interesting thing though. Learning this week of Grandpa BC's terminal diagnosis of advanced Pancreatic cancer, hearing and seeing, via tv and internet, devastation in Chile, ongoing in Haiti and worrying about the affects the tsunami may have on so many areas did temper my frustration when I learned that Derek was jumping on the guest bed again. The bed the boys have been threatened many punishments for jumping on and breaking in the past. They've been grounded from it for close to 6 months after Patrick managed to repair it last time. But this time I didn't get angry. I didn't let him off the hook, but I didn't lose my cool. He still thinks I did though.

"I can't leave your sight!?!"

I am boring to hang out with after all. I just sit around nursing Whittaker, blogging and reading CNN updates.

Perhaps he'd like to help me sort and evaluate the 72 hour kits instead? He may think the world is miserable but I'm feeling pretty blessed right now.

A tribute

We awoke to a house at 59 degrees... We hadn't realized when we went to bed it would drop so drastically... even after listening to the weather forecast.

We had spent the day before running around and not returning home until just before midnight and only wished to fall into our beds... not go searching for cozy jammies or extra blankets.

We awoke with chattering teeth and frozen toes. I suppose it's a good thing that we even awoke.

We turned the furnace on and grabbed all available blankets and crawled under them and shivered.

After a little while we ventured out of the blankets and into the now 63 degree kitchen. Thoughts of a warm breakfast carried our frigid feet across the floor, but what could we make quickly to warm us....

Back under the blankets, our hands wrapped around our warm mugs, the hot cocoa trickled down our throats and warmed us from the inside out....ahhhhh...

More things to 'DO' in December

Excitement is in the air... A busy Sunday was ahead of us. Both Caleb and I had presidency meetings before church so we were up early and got everyone dressed ahead of time so that when I returned from my meeting we wouldn't have a big rush to be ready on time... Caleb and I were both singing in the choir and had to be there early also. The Primary was singing two songs today and I didn't want to forget any of the visuals to help them remember the words to the last verse since we hadn't really nailed it yet without them. I also had fun game plans for singing time... I really think Sunday mornings are getting out of hand... I practically need to pack my luggage and have an itinerary to make it through the day!

But today we took a slightly different approach. Caleb left for his meeting and I headed to the shower having just one hour until he returned and I had to be gone... The rest of the kids were ready, just me! As I stepped into the bathroom, I heard a little voice behind me... "Mummy I don't feel very good"

Miles was white as a ghost. We quickly found the coughee pot and a towel and lay on the couch. Then I heard what happened.... The kids had been goofing off and Miles had fallen and hit his head. While I got the low down on what happened, Miles fell asleep..... ahh.. not good after hitting your head! He was rousable but still very white and sleepy.

So instead of a shower and a day as planned... a few phone calls... great friends and neighbours (thanks B.C., Amber, Genevieve, Gina, Channa)... and Miles and I headed off to the emergency room... we got as far as the back door... when he began heaving. Thankfully he was still carrying the coughee pot. A little clean up and we tried again.

As the nurse asked Miles how he hurt his head, he replied, "We were playing a game downstairs. We run around the kiwi really fast and then flop over on the potato, but I missed the potato." (the translation, which I had to give to the nurse was, "we have 2 large beanbag things in our downstairs... they are two different shades of brown and we call them the kiwi and the potato.") Completely logical... not a head injury speech mix-up!
Another question they asked was if he always dressed in a shirt and tie to come to the hospital? "I don't think so, in my baby book I was only wearing a diaper when I was at the hospital and I don't know if I've ever been any other times."
And another was, "What grade are you in at school?"... should have been an easy question... except as he looked at me... I realized..."well he's homeschooled in Science 2, History 3, Math 2, English 1, Art 4, Spanish K, and Music 1... so do you average the grade level?"
After about 5 hours in E.R., CT scans, X-Rays and a few different doctors examining him... Miles was perking up, had some colour back in his face, the results were good. He did have a mild concussion and a slight fracture to the rear of his skull. However he was able to be discharged. Another plus to our visit was the extra peek inside his head to determine that his head is healing well and just as has been hoped for, ever since his surgeries so very long ago!


We had been there a while and they wanted to know if he could keep any food down so they brought him some cheese, crackers and juice. When we were being discharged the nurse who had brought the snacks earlier (which he did thankfully keep down!), he asked,

"Do you ever hand out apples at this hospital?"
Nurse - "Oh, I could probably find you one are you still hungry?"
"No, I don't need one, I just wondered cause you know... An apple a day keeps the doctor away."

The nurse and I did not see that one coming!... I think he's just fine! In fact since we arrived home he's still playing hospital with Mackenzie and Sarah as nurses in training... Kenzie read him stories and Sarah has played Othello. Duncan even joined in to play checkers but claims he's not a nurse, just a visitor. He's to refrain from jarring movements or high-impact sports and activities... so I guess the kiwi/potato flop game is now over!

As I drove home with snow all around, I realized that I've made the trek to Primary Children's all too often in the weeks or days just before Christmas! When Caleb was five we went the first week in Dec. for his Subdural hematoma (head injury). A week before Christmas when Miles was 21 months old... again in Dec. he fell over the back of the couch and landed on his still very fragile head and we rushed him to instacare for evaluation. Miles was almost 3 and he had a bad reaction to the 2nd type of antibiotics for his bronchial pneumonia and we rushed to E.R. On Christmas eve when Duncan was 2, one of the thoughtful neighbourly goodies that were delivered to our home was a nutty concoction of sorts and although he didn't eat it he had handled it and just the oils on his hands from touching the nuts was enough to cause him to react. He had rubbed his eyes and they swole to double in size in minutes and he began to wheeze so we rushed to E.R. And then the last Christmas in our old house we woke up to have Miles having a dreadful Asthma attack induced by yet another bout with bronchitis, and had to track down a nebulizer to keep him breathing.

I'm struck by the same thought every time I'm driving to the E.R We're normally so healthy and they pick the snowy treacherous days around Christmas to need to be the time for us to be patrons of the Primary Children's Hospital, but each time I'm reminded how blessed I am. I have the Hospital relatively close by and available to me. We only seem to need it once a year at best. I'm always overwhelmed with the staff at that hospital... I think they hide their angel wings well inside their scrubs, and it must be a job requirement at Primary's to always have a smile. We haven't had to stay overnight but 2 times... Caleb's head and Miles Surgery (which we knew about ahead of time.) We've always left patched up and good as new ready to go on with our lives and I know that not all are so fortunate!

Thanksgiving... the way George wanted it!

George Washington's 1789 Thanksgiving Proclamation

Whereas it is the duty of all nations to acknowledge the providence of Almighty God, to obey His will, to be grateful for His benefits, and humbly to implore His protection and favor; and Whereas both Houses of Congress have, by their joint committee, requested me to "recommend to the people of the United States a day of public thanksgiving and prayer, to be observed by acknowledging with grateful hearts the many and signal favors of Almighty God, especially by affording them an opportunity peaceably to establish a form of government for their safety and happiness:"

Now, therefore, I do recommend and assign Thursday, the 26th day of November next, to be devoted by the people of these States to the service of that great and glorious Being who is the beneficent author of all the good that was, that is, or that will be; that we may then all unite in rendering unto Him our sincere and humble thanks for His kind care and protection of the people of this country previous to their becoming a nation; for the signal and manifold mercies and the favorable interposition of His providence in the course and conclusion of the late war; for the great degree of tranquility, union, and plenty which we have since enjoyed; for the peaceable and rational manner in which we have been enable to establish constitutions of government for our safety and happiness, and particularly the national one now lately instituted for the civil and religious liberty with which we are blessed, and the means we have of acquiring and diffusing useful knowledge; and, in general, for all the great and various favors which He has been pleased to confer upon us.

And also that we may then unite in most humbly offering our prayers and supplications to the great Lord and Ruler of Nations and beseech Him to pardon our national and other transgressions; to enable us all, whether in public or private stations, to perform our several and relative duties properly and punctually; to render our National Government a blessing to all the people by constantly being a Government of wise, just, and constitutional laws, discreetly and faithfully executed and obeyed; to protect and guide all sovereigns and nations (especially such as have shown kindness to us), and to bless them with good governments, peace, and concord; to promote the knowledge and practice of true religion and virtue, and the increase of science among them and us; and, generally to grant unto all mankind such a degree of temporal prosperity as He alone knows to be best.

Thanksgiving Day

Over the river and thru the wood,
To grandfather's house we go;
The horse knows the way to carry the sleigh,
Thru the white and drifted snow, oh!

Over the river and thru the wood,
Oh, how the wind does blow!
It stings the toes and bites the nose,
As over the ground we go.

Over the river and thru the wood,
To have a first-rate play;
Oh, hear the bell ring, "Ting-a-ling-ling!"
Hurrah for Thanksgiving Day-ay!

Over the river and thru the wood,
Trot fast my dapple gray!
Spring over the ground,
Like a hunting hound!
For this is Thanksgiving Day.

Over the river and through the wood,
And straight through the barnyard gate.
We seem to go extremely slow
It is so hard to wait!

Over the river and through the wood --
Now Grandmother's cap I spy!
Hurrah for fun! Is the pudding done?
Hurrah for the pumpkin pie!
by Lydia Maria Child


No where in that song do they mention spending the day toiling over a turkey and all the trimmings... just the pudding and the pie, the joy of anticipating a day spent together!!! That Grandma had her priorities straight!

So this year, we plan to try something a little bit different. We're having macaroni and cheese tomorrow and ALL of us are going to enjoy having the day together! Instead of some of us relaxing while a few of us spend the entire day preparing one meal.... Don't get me wrong... this weekend we'll cook up the turkey... pick at it for a bit... enjoy some sandwiches, a little turkey soup, work on some long overdue projects, play some games with the kids and RELAX!!!

Frank

When Miles was an infant he required surgeries for his Craniostenosis, a birth defect. For the first six weeks of his life he had a misshapen head that earned him the nickname of Franklin... for Franklin the Turtle. (O.K... so we should have been more caring and loving since we weren't sure how or even if the surgeries would turn out .... but that's just not our style.)

Although the month of surgeries was a touch and go time and an emotionally draining time due to all the unknown... we continued to refer to him on the sly.. as Frank... but now for a new reason.... Post surgery he had a very obvious scar zigzagging from ear to ear... so now he was Frankenstein.

Last year in October, my book club decided to read Frankenstein by Mary Shelley. I wasn't too keen. I've never actually cared for being frightened and the images I'd seen so far hadn't lent to a favorable Frankenstein image. But I did read it and am so glad that I did. I don't wish to give away any spoilers, but it really isn't at all the story that most think it is and I enjoyed it... actually cared for the characters in the story... both Frankenstein and the monster... oops...small spoiler there... Regardless I didn't feel quite as much guilt six years later about referring to my poor defenseless infant as a horrible monster figure anymore.

It's a good thing Miles has a great sense of humor... He actually thinks Frank is a cool name... His Primary teachers' name is Frank and he thinks that's so cool. He's really not so 'Franklike' anymore though. The ever smiling Miles.

Gratitude for frustrations

It's Thanksgiving in Canada and since here it won't be Gratitude week for over a month and I prefer to relax during that week and enjoy my birthday and just make macaroni and cheese and pie... I'll post what I'm grateful for now.

  • First and foremost is that I can just have macaroni and cheese and pie for Thanksgiving and enjoy the rest of the day.
  • for dirty dishes... I have enough dishes that just because one is dirty doesn't mean the cupboard is bare ... dirty ones mean that I was able to feed my family... dirty ones also means that my family is fed.
  • for a long to do list... I am a capable individual with aspirations and am only limited by time and money... not by physical means... I can do what I desire with diligence and perseverance.
  • For children who tell me that I'm mean... I've managed to set up limits and boundaries and they are being followed... they understand what is expected of them and how to make choices.
  • unfinished household projects.... things to look forward to (stretching for a positive spin)... maybe this is better... I'm getting the satisfaction of doing them my way and paying cash.
  • So grateful that although I am generally at home for long periods of time without going anywhere (sometimes weeks at a time!) that I can be pretty self sufficient at home without going too mental!
  • I can home school my children even if it means I don't have much time left over for... anything else
  • I get to hang my clothes out to dry... rain and cold do present a challenge for me, I have to think about it if I'm not home and it starts to rain but all in all I wouldn't have it any other way
  • I can eat leftovers for breakfast and have pancakes for dinner and my family thinks I'm cool not weird!
  • I have a mountain of dirt, a mountain of rocks and a sandpit in my backyard with big plans and intentions just no time to implement them and my children have found these to be great play areas instead of being frustrated that their yard is still in limbo a year later....
  • my sweet husband hasn't deserted me when I bring home chickens against his wishes, and kittens and bunnies that I'm allergic too and expect him to make a fabulous new home for our additions! (which he always does!)
  • having to drive an old, ugly VW Vanagon that breaks down and looks like a streak of poop driving down the road... it is spacious even while seating nine... it has a great heater in it in the winter (we won't talk about the summer temps. ... this is about being grateful!), it has comfortable seats and enough leg room for Patrick without having to hit his head on the ceiling either... and that's in any seat!, the seating arrangement is fun for kids to travel and play games on a card table, I never worry about being broken into or having it stolen.. since seriously most people think it isn't worth it..., I get a wide berth on the road since I guess everyone assumes I'm about to break down, it makes plenty of noise and now that Patrick is driving it and I have the new car... I have a few minutes forewarning when Patrick is arriving home so I can be anywhere but sitting in front of the computer when he walks in, it gets us where we need to go 90% of the time without breaking down, it's completely paid for! (Who knew how grateful I was for the van)
  • sick kids... no not glad when they're sick just amazed how great they are... I've only had to clean up one sick bed in 13 years... they just always manage to make it to the toilet or get to a bowl! (Now I have had to clean up a few car messes including on our last trip to the ranch... so I suppose that might even it out)
  • Even though my family is all over the whole world... technology helps us feel closer together, we're able to feel like we can do something in the midst of tragedy through the internet, and thanks to cell phones we can keep in touch even though we're all still living our lives a mile a minute! (We were able to conference a call together with Paige in TX, Mum in Canada, Dad in CA, and myself to organize some plans and comfort... we can make arrangements for food and lodging, have simple items ordered and delivered to give comfort from our distant locations, book flights and rental cars... even access Paige's business accounts for her so she can continue to work)
  • Although Paiges house is a black sooty mess, they're living in a small RV, don't have power or place to turn around, but they are as Carlos says "Still better off than so many".(This is very profound coming from the guy that never talks!) They have shelter, food, clothes on their backs, jobs, money in the bank, insurance, transportation, wonderful friends, family and support and good attitudes (most of the time... but hey... the house did just burn up and one truck did get totalled!!...) What more do you really need?