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Forties File Friday -- Let it Snow....

VALERIE
Growing up in Los Angeles, snow wasn't a big part of my life. The only experience with snow that I remember from my childhood was my parents driving us to the mountains to play in the snow. We were so excited and had big plans for hours of frivolity and snowman-making. When we arrived, we eagerly scrambled out of the car in pursuit of winter's delights. We probably lasted 30 minutes. Soon we were back in the car, stripping off our wet clothing, rubbing our raw, numb hands, howling for more heat, and vowing never to go back. My parents were both perplexed and amused at our about-face. In all our imagining, I think we somehow had missed the concept of snow being cold.

My next encounter with snow didn't happen until I was 14-years-old. I joined my uncle's youth group on a ski trip. I was really excited to learn how to ski, and fly down the slopes with grace and ease. Well, despite a ski lesson, I spent most of the day, face-planted in the snow, and never did master the bunny hill. I would fly down it, uncontrollably, and people all around me would scream, "stop" and the only way I could stop was to fall over. My uncle took pity on me, and taught me to snow plow, but it still wasn't much fun. Especially, when I'd fall over in line, or coming off the ski lift, and wouldn't be able to get up again without help.

I prefer to enjoy snow, from an indoor window, or curled up next to a fireplace. This So.Cal girl never got used to the undeniable. fact that snow is cold.

MUM

Snow in the olden days ..... of my youth you ask... hmm. Never enough snow to stop our world from carrying on..
  • It was in the days before snow tires.. but then there weren't as many tires on the road !
  • It was in the days. of ''carry on'' rain or shine (or snow)though our city didn't have a snow plow
  • It was in the days.. where we had a little more snow than Victoria now has... (with one exception) we really had more slush than snow ..it was so often mixed with or diluted by rain..
  • It was in the days.. when everyone who had to commute on such days turned to the buses and that seemed to handle the intrusion snow made into our winter lives..
  • It was day that we always hoped for a white Christmas.. but that was rare rare rare.. and if snow did come in December.. and we held out hope..for it staying till Christmas.... it didn't ! as rain also came in December and that was the end of snow..
  • It was a time when big brothers threatened little sisters..
  • It was a day when i had red woollen legging that matched my hooded coat and i delighted in making snow angels. without fear of really touching the cold of the wet clumpy sticking snow..It wasn't a snow that you could brush off
  • It was a climate of wet snow that rolled well into snow balls huge for snow men
  • It was a day when we actually had coal from our basement bin.. for the snowmans eyes!
  • It was in a day when we first heard the song of frosty the snowman. published in 1950 .
    I was 8.
  • It was in a day of Bing Crosbys winter wonderland.song .. that always increased our our hope for a snowy winter. ( Bing was born in Tacoma! and sang I'm dreaming of a white Christmas) in 1954.. I was 12.
  • It was a day when it was an exciting opportunity to shovel side walks with wooden homemade shovels
  • It was a day before the days of rubbermaid or plastic.. and for the few times shoveling was necessary.. no one would''purchase'' a shovel ( if they were even for sale). the dads would just quickly make one in the basement
  • It was a day when people walked to the store for groceries every few days and usually pushed babies or toddlers in buggies or prams.. but what fun it was in snow times.. to be taken on a sled..
  • It was a day when you always walked to school.. (up Hampshire Hill both ways,) and it took much longer in the snow.. we walked home for lunch always,.. but on snow days we got to take our lunch ! now that was special !
Yes it was a special day .. but snow to kids was the same as it is today ... fun fun fun.. with cold wet mitts to hang to dry.. .mitts that were made of wool not fleece or vinyl or thermal... and would be caked with snow.. they would dry faster if you soaked them in warm water first, ironically, the only way to quickly remove the snow !

And the worst thing that could happen would be that you were sick (in bed) with a cold and only saw the snow through a window ! and had the real fear that it would likely be gone before you were allowed out! just such a time happened to me.. Now that's a memory of a sad lost opportunity of a childhood.

JILL
wet cold snow, down my neck, and down my sleeves, being pelted with hard ice snowballs by older brothers and their friends, being the younger sister, i didnt have a fighting chance, suffocating ' face washes' where you are choking for air.
in yet. like everyone else, i too felt the joyous anticipation and hopes for knee deep snow as the first flakes would turn to flurries outside the classroom windows, turning even high school students into giddy children at the sight of the white stuff. i recall checking out the windows at night and finally seeing the white flecks blowing about in the light cast by the street lights. i remember feeling that excitement for the next day of a world in white ,and hopes of school closures and snow angels and igloos.
but more often than not, the reality was the contrary. these visions were swiftly dashed . usually the snow had turned to rain, and there was nothing but dirty slushy mess , splashing up by passing cars on the long walk to school,and stepping off the curb to cross the street and that seemingly harmless bit of snow would easily give way, to the pool of water underneath, sinking just deep enough to spill icy cold water down inside the boots. cold wet feet for the duration of the day.. a particularly unpleasant situation if one had been coached to wear cozy leotards. resulting in removing the wet stockings, and spending the day in bare legs with the mini dress style at the time, perched on the cold desk chair.
ohh the memories..
and i havent even brought up the wet mitten saga, and the restricting tangled string threaded though the sleeves of my stiff and bulky winter coat, all in the name of keeping the mittens from becoming lost from each other, what a magical invention! and so comfortable , especially when trying to ride a bike , with arms extended to as far as the strings would allow.... memories... and of course the static cling that always accompanies winter, magnified by knitted touques and long hair..
i do recall, some snow men over the years, getting creative with gender and accessories, and hoping that it wouldnt be completely melted by the morning or the end of the day. and usually, if it was ever cold enough to not melt, some mean kids would knock it down in the night.
with all this said, i still feel giddy inside when i see the first flurries, besides it has been a long time since someone tried to give me a face wash!


i forgot to mention, shoveling stairs, walkways, paths, it was fun at first, but when it would get so hot inside the stiff bulky winter coat, it was less fun,, and when that was done there was always other peoples driveways and walkways to clear, to do the good Samaritan act, for the older folks on the street. but the warmth felt in the heart was usually worth the temporary discomfort of the stiff bulky winter coat and the wet mittens..besides there was often hot chocolate waiting inside with toasted raisin english muffins.

CHANNA
follow this link to Channa's blog about Snow...

NOVA

Snow wasn't a big part of growing up in Victoria and even less so a part of living in Texas. Nothing that would have prepared me for the snow that I would experience later in life, first in Idaho at Ricks, then in Wyoming at the ranch, and also in SLC. But there were still some memories of snow filled moments in my childhood.

I know we must have had enough snow to create a few snowman over the years.... of course all the snow in the yard was likely used with grass showing all around the snowman. Snow never seemed to last more than a few days if it lasted that long.
I know one time that older siblings and parents?? were up later than the little kids when it must have started to snow and they built a snowman and then woke us to let us see it in case it was gone by morning.

I know that in highschool it began to snow one day which was a surprise to us since I had ridden my bike to school and then had to ride home in the snowy slush. Snow was always VERY WET.
It wasn't until my years in the ID, WY, UT snow that I learned that there are different types of snows. Also that snow could be fluffy and that it wasn't always bitterly, bone chillingly cold just because there was snow outside... although it certainly can be. In Victoria snow always came with the bone chilling cold. Or should I say that there was a bone chilling cold in Victoria and that sometimes it even snowed.

I don't ever remember sledding but I do remember as a young teen going on a skiing trip with John and Jim. It didn't take long to know that I enjoy sipping hot chocolate and waiting by the fire in the lodge for those who have the knack for moving too quickly down a snow packed mountain on two skinny pieces of fiberglass and plastic... To this day I dislike ski lifts... especially in the summer time when there isn't many feet of snow to bring the ground level a little closer... (we took on the alpine slide in Park City and to my chagrin.... the only way up was the ski lift)but I digress...

Childhood snow although not frequent or deep was exciting to anticipate and to enjoy regardless of how quickly it melted away!

EDEN
I remember snow in Texas once or twice. nothing that stuck, but I remember the light flurries in the wind.
I remember the way the tree house looked with 5 inches on it's roof. and the pool with a layer of white
I remember the blizzard of '96 with snow drifts 4 ft deep between the trailer and the container.
I remember face washes
I must have gotten hot chocolate after playing cause thats what I do now with Sadie and it feels natural.
I remember all the work involved in getting ready to go out, only to be too hot and have cold wet hands. I remember all kinds of snow, crisp light morning snow and than slushy dirty afternoon snow.

JOHN

Snow!
I remember a snow so deep that we dugg tunnels in it! I remember walking in the Snow to Grandma's house for Lunch! It can remember being so grown up sitting in the Living Room drinking hot chocolate in the same cups and Grandma and Granpa drank their tea! I remember the first snow we saw was in Prescot Arizon on the top of a mountain! I also remember thinking if it is so cold on the top of a mountain while it was so hot down below where we lived the whole thing about burning in hell must be true. It must be very hot! But, I don't want to go to heaven because it would be so cold! I sort of remember asking if we wore jackets in Heaven and the answer that came back was no White Robes! I just figured at that time that they must made of fur!
It is strange that these things stay with you!

Thanksgiving... the way George wanted it!

George Washington's 1789 Thanksgiving Proclamation

Whereas it is the duty of all nations to acknowledge the providence of Almighty God, to obey His will, to be grateful for His benefits, and humbly to implore His protection and favor; and Whereas both Houses of Congress have, by their joint committee, requested me to "recommend to the people of the United States a day of public thanksgiving and prayer, to be observed by acknowledging with grateful hearts the many and signal favors of Almighty God, especially by affording them an opportunity peaceably to establish a form of government for their safety and happiness:"

Now, therefore, I do recommend and assign Thursday, the 26th day of November next, to be devoted by the people of these States to the service of that great and glorious Being who is the beneficent author of all the good that was, that is, or that will be; that we may then all unite in rendering unto Him our sincere and humble thanks for His kind care and protection of the people of this country previous to their becoming a nation; for the signal and manifold mercies and the favorable interposition of His providence in the course and conclusion of the late war; for the great degree of tranquility, union, and plenty which we have since enjoyed; for the peaceable and rational manner in which we have been enable to establish constitutions of government for our safety and happiness, and particularly the national one now lately instituted for the civil and religious liberty with which we are blessed, and the means we have of acquiring and diffusing useful knowledge; and, in general, for all the great and various favors which He has been pleased to confer upon us.

And also that we may then unite in most humbly offering our prayers and supplications to the great Lord and Ruler of Nations and beseech Him to pardon our national and other transgressions; to enable us all, whether in public or private stations, to perform our several and relative duties properly and punctually; to render our National Government a blessing to all the people by constantly being a Government of wise, just, and constitutional laws, discreetly and faithfully executed and obeyed; to protect and guide all sovereigns and nations (especially such as have shown kindness to us), and to bless them with good governments, peace, and concord; to promote the knowledge and practice of true religion and virtue, and the increase of science among them and us; and, generally to grant unto all mankind such a degree of temporal prosperity as He alone knows to be best.

Birthdays should be recognized.... even if you wouldn't recognize the individual if you saw them walking down a street!

It was brought to my attention recently that today is someones birthday and I didn't do a blog! A birthday should be recognized no matter the age or how well one is known!

So, I will remedy the problem pronto.... except what do you write about someone you think you met one time 6 years ago for a few minutes! hmmm......

To the daddy of Sadie and Ava whom I haven't yet met and it breaks my heart to know that out there are two darling little girls who need to have the chance to be swayed into believing that I am the favourite aunt,

Happy Birthday! I hope that by this time next year, through either the medium of this amazing technological world wide web or even better, by in person, I will have something more to say in a Happy Birthday to Shawn blog. Eden tells me that she wastes a portion of her life reading about my life... I don't know if you have succumbed also to such an indolent activity but if you have then you are reading this pathetic attempt to wish you a Happy Birthday.... good thing I'm certain that thanks to Eden you are dining in style on some delicious birthday morsels! Maybe even entertaining or being entertained by some family and friends! However you are celebrating today, I wish you happiness in your heart.

As a side note, it's nice to know yet another individual, lucky enough to have been born in the month of November! And to think if you'd been born a few hours earlier, we might have even shared a birthday... but then, not everyone can be that lucky!!!

I look forward to learning more of you and even meeting you some day,

happily,
the blogging lady, Nova!

P.S.
Birthday is one of those occasions where strong emotional bonds, and warmth of heartfelt best wishes go beyond the barrier of language and sincere and cordial birthday wishes... so to go beyond language barriers, enjoy the following...

Brazilian: Parabéns a você! nesta data querida muitas felicidades e muitos anos de vida.

Chinese-Cantonese: Sun Yat Fai Lok!

Croatian: Sretan Rodendan!

Danish: Tillykke med fodselsdagen!

Finnish: Hyvaa syntymapaivaa!

French (Canada): Bonne Fete!

German: Alles Gute zum Geburtstag!

Greek: Eytyxismena Genethlia! or Chronia Pola!

Hawaiian: Hau`oli la hanau!

Japanese: Otanjou-bi Omedetou Gozaimasu!

Spanish: Feliz Cumpleaños!

Thai: Suk San Wan Keut!

Happy Birthday!

Thanksgiving Day

Over the river and thru the wood,
To grandfather's house we go;
The horse knows the way to carry the sleigh,
Thru the white and drifted snow, oh!

Over the river and thru the wood,
Oh, how the wind does blow!
It stings the toes and bites the nose,
As over the ground we go.

Over the river and thru the wood,
To have a first-rate play;
Oh, hear the bell ring, "Ting-a-ling-ling!"
Hurrah for Thanksgiving Day-ay!

Over the river and thru the wood,
Trot fast my dapple gray!
Spring over the ground,
Like a hunting hound!
For this is Thanksgiving Day.

Over the river and through the wood,
And straight through the barnyard gate.
We seem to go extremely slow
It is so hard to wait!

Over the river and through the wood --
Now Grandmother's cap I spy!
Hurrah for fun! Is the pudding done?
Hurrah for the pumpkin pie!
by Lydia Maria Child


No where in that song do they mention spending the day toiling over a turkey and all the trimmings... just the pudding and the pie, the joy of anticipating a day spent together!!! That Grandma had her priorities straight!

So this year, we plan to try something a little bit different. We're having macaroni and cheese tomorrow and ALL of us are going to enjoy having the day together! Instead of some of us relaxing while a few of us spend the entire day preparing one meal.... Don't get me wrong... this weekend we'll cook up the turkey... pick at it for a bit... enjoy some sandwiches, a little turkey soup, work on some long overdue projects, play some games with the kids and RELAX!!!

Mathematical magic!!

Today if you double the age of my eldest son you arrive at my (favourite) age...

Today if you add together the ages of my children you arrive at my age...
Today if you double my age you arrive at my father's age...
Today if you add together my age with the ages of my children you arrive at my father's age...

That's not likely to occur again anytime soon.

Yes we have too much time on our hands.... but it's ok... cause it's a birthday and anything goes....

Happy Day to Paul and Katie 26th

A Sagittarius born on November 26 is achievement-oriented and likes to do things their way. They can use practical means to bring about seemingly impractical goals. They seem hotheaded and stubborn; this doesn't come from ego but from innocent self-confidence. They believe their way is the best way.

November 26 natives are self-disciplined and centered. Practical in romantic matters, they don't really enjoy playing the field once they've set their sights on a potential mate. Unlike most Sagittarians, they are happy to settle down and start a family.

Children and Family People born on this date are the bulwark of their family. They enjoy showing their responsible side, but family expectations can be a burden. They make excellent parents because they combine fun with discipline. They don't let their youngsters get away with much but always explain why something is or is not allowed.

The recipe for health and happiness by November 26 people is comprised of equal parts activity and indolence. They know that relaxation plays a big role in feeling good, and they also understand the need for regular exercise. They are disciplined in all areas.

These men and women are often drawn to academic life, or at least careers that require a college degree. Their goal is ultimate wisdom. November 26 natives have a practical approach to handling money. They have the self-discipline to save and can usually resist spending on credit.

November 26 people would rather struggle than have things come easily. They have emotional toughness and feel that only through hard work can they regard themselves as successful. Despite their common-sense attitude, they don't necessarily strive to achieve practical goals. They're just as likely to wish for the impossible. The only difference is their ability to accomplish it.

They believe strongly in loving themselves. Their goals in life are usually of the expansive nature. Jupiter also gives the Sagittarian a wellspring of luck in their financial dealings.

hmmm, I'm not really a staunch believer in the astrological mumbo jumbo.... but when I'm described so perfectly who am I to argue!! Besides, I'll take the wellspring of luck in financial dealings if it's really being offered....

Hope all those celebrating with me today feel as well described! Happiest of days to Paul and Katie from one 26 year old to two others!!

My Japanese Teacher

A picture says a thousand words... but unfortunately for all the many (seven or so) readers, since I'm unable to post photos currently I will have to use the thousand words method to describe to you the sister in law that is having a birthday today!

Hiroko was one of my Japanese teachers in high school. Back then she was lovely, kind and elegant. During the first year that I took Japanese, my brother returned from living in Japan at the time for a visit. It was during this visit that I can remember sitting in the kitchen at Haultain and discussing with him the possibility of him taking part in a class discussion. We talked about him talking to my teacher about it. I tried to describe her to him.... he seemed to doubt my sincerity by repeatedly asking things like... "So, when you say she is very nice, you mean...looks like a dog but she's still nice to talk to nice?"

My attempts to reassure him that she is not a dog... but rather very pretty, in fact maybe she was too pretty and intelligent for the likes of him by this point in the conversation... but it must have worked because he took her to lunch. Oddly enough, I don't recall if he ever came into my class for a discussion about living in Japan, but I do know that there for a while I got see a fair bit of my Japanese teacher 'outside of class time'! You might think that with all this extra time I would speak better Japanese.. but I'm afraid it's still rather rudimentary! I do recall a moment some time after they started dating that my brother pulled me aside to thank me for setting them up because she was anything but a dog... Hiroko for anyone who hasn't met her is the definition of lovely elegance, class and beauty!

To this day, my brother would have to admit that he 'lucked out' and is still smitten with Hiroko and we all have a lot to learn from the lady on the other side of the world who can make living in a treehouse with three wild boys who live hectic schedules, that she coordinates, seem like an elegant and sophisticated existance. She is still as lovely today as the day we met and I think if it's possible... even more elegant! Of course, knowing that she was once my teacher might make one think that today on her birthday that she is aging... but I would be remiss if I failed to mention that she is ageless.... likely she and I will both be turning 26 this week... but she still looks like it!

Happy Birthday Hiroko!
Mum kindly sent some photos for me to use! Enjoy a stroll down memory lane.

Learning to Share... and have patience

I received an email over the weekend that I thought I'd share along with my response!!

2008/11/23 Valerie
Mrs. N,

Where's the blogs? How can I feed my addiction for "noble moments?!" I must point out that I posted TWO blogs tonight!! (Never mind, that that's all I've done the last month). Your public needs you, hop to!!

J/K

Hope you're having a restful, non-blogging weekend. You deserve them, once in a while!

In reply...

Mrs. G,

I"ll have you know... that I am in withdrawals... My computer is infected with a virus that is wiping it of files... so it is going to see the specialist hoping that all is not lost (especially photos... not photos!!)

Duncan's computer which was as old as the hills finally gave up the ghost weeks ago... and since it really isn't imperative that a 5 year old have his own machine we opted to not replace it. Miles computer, as you know, blew up while you were here, filling the office with a stinky smoke... Since there were still 2 children's computers and that still sounds to me to be excessive, I wasn't rushing out to remedy the situation still.
Caleb's computer which was alarming while you were here, crashed and no longer allowed us access to really anything and it is now gone to a generous soul who may or may not be able to get it to run again.. (we deemed it worthy to repair since it wasn't an ancient relic, and was capable of running XP and has a sizable harddrive to work with). Besides, Caleb requires a machine for 90% of his school assignments, so it was a little easier to justify keeping the machine running for him.

Currently we only have Sarah's machine (the old relic, still running Windows 98 with pathetic ram and it's own share of issues) and I have to SHARE... which I don't do well... with three needy children who claim they have school to do, a preschooler who likes to pretend that he's doing school and used to entertain himself nicely on the computer while we did school, and Patrick who seems to think Elder's Quorum secretary duties make him deserving of a few minutes with the machine... (Oi vay)

To top it off... I've been madly trying to get everything done for the Primary activity in two weeks and now I may have to start all over! I had 7 of the 12 packets finished!!!
I have been having drafted blogs lurking in my nightmares keeping me from good quality sleep!! Well actually without the computer access, I've been going to bed on time and getting great sleep, cleaned the whole house, defrosted the freezer, caught up on the laundry, made a few casseroles to put in the freezer, finished Christmas shopping and I'm getting ready to paint the downstairs den... BUT, that isn't the point... and I refuse to admit that blogging might have been hindering household task progress! You won't hear that from ME!

As for my public..... I'm sure the 7 of you can learn a little patience along with me!!!

p.s.
It took the whole day to do this blog instead of the normal 30-45 minutes since I got kicked off for typing practice, an essay, a conference with the algebra teacher, and some wikipedia research on dolphins, there won't be any photos so you'll have to close your eyes and imagine a beatiful frost free and organized by food type freezer and imagine gifts beautifully wrapped and hidden ********* (kids sometimes read the blog so I better not mention where), and a tidy house ready for some exciting painting projects... while difficult to imagine, I can assure you it is really existing... at least until my computer returns!

Forties File Friday: My mother always said...

Next Weeks Question will be,
"Let it Snow, Let it Snow... " What are memories you have of having snow growing up?

Once again in the order in which they were received, the answer to the question,
"My mother always said..."
What stands out as phrases or sayings that make you think of Mum?

NOVA

  • Don't put it down, put it away!
  • Do the thing you fear to do and fear will disappear.
  • Nothing on the floor anymore! (in a sing songy voice)
  • That which you persist in doing becomes easier, not because the nature of the thing decreases but your power to do it increases.
  • If your solution creates a problem for another then it is not a solution
  • I'm so mad I could spit nickels!
  • I'm hiding in a box
  • (Grandma's) A whistling woman and a crowing hen are sure to come to a no good end.
CHANNA
  • Less is More. (or was it Less is better?)
  • Don't put it down, put it away.
  • Do the thing you fear to do and fear will disappear.
  • What 3 places have you looked?
  • Look with your hands.
  • A gum chewing girl and a cud chewing cow, there's a difference I'll allow, it's the intelligent look on the face of the cow.
PAIGE

Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine!

The notes posted all over the house.... I guess they aren't really memories since they still are... even in our new homes!! In the fridge, on the toilet, on the door, on the wall, washing machine, inside the cupboards, on the t.v.... I guess you could say Mum is still saying things....

DAD

My mother Roberta Mae would always respond when I would ask one of life’s imponderable questions. “ That is a wait and see!” That just about covered everything so I would just have to keep waiting to find out what I wanted to know.

JIM

This is one thing mother said in my teens perhaps even later teens...
"Even if I am Wrong I am right...I am your mother..."
As you know, mothers can get flustered when addressing teens and it would often come out,
"Even If I am Right I'm wrong... I'm your mother"
If either version was said you new it was in desperation.

JILL

There were two things that mum would say, (fairly often as I recall) and would use interchangeably, usually resulting in a child to stand still, staring off, head tilted with a dumbfounded look on their face... because it was unclear whether it was a compliment or an insult. In fact it was cleverly disguised as both at once, (which I figured out later in life) and I quote
"You re not as dumb as you look "
and
" You're smarter than you look"
This is when you did something conceived as being clever, or correct anyways.....
and of course the infamous.... " Layovers for medlers"
which was usually said in good humour ( as rosette would say)
usually in conjunction with a surprise, treat or present..
I recently pondered this age-old favorite saying of mums, ... to be specific..when I was stuck in an airport for a long while...
"Layovers for medlers" hmmm.. i thought to myself, I thought..that if I were a nosey, rude person that didn't mind their own business, and I was required to spend a lot of time in airports waiting for connecting flights.... that I could actually be experiencing a " Layovers for medlers".
"Be Good and have fun"
This one was actually Grandmas saying, and I don't know if mum ever said it, perhaps because they are kind of both ' givens', in that you hope and expect the child to be good, and you hope and expect them to try and have fun.
I have used this one on my kids, however, usually more elaborately detailed, being somewhat more specific than grandma's loose instructions. I would try and define my versions of " good" and " fun " ...in 5000 words or less.... as I was dropping them off somewhere, still talking a blue streak.. long after the car door has been shut, and I am fumbling for the electric window button, so at least my final words of infinite wisdom can be heard by anyone within earshot, ....and usually long after my child is out of sight....
'Ding Dong' - pretty self explanatory... mums version of swearing
What 3 places have you looked? again...pretty self explanatory
"Sit you doon"
now this one was not from growing up, it was more recent, like the past 10 yrs... perhaps, the longing for Scotland burned in her blood... she began to come up with these little scottish habits? not to be confused with her mush habit .
FHB aka Family Hold Back ... This one was the family code, discreetly slipped into dinnertime conversation, when we had missionaries, and lonely shut in seniors, (orphaned by their own families) . This was to inform us that the chef had miscalculated the number of guests and that there would not be enough food for all.... that is.. if we were to dish up the usual gathright sized mountains of mashed potatoes, and jim-size portions of creamed corn and roast beef and lakes of gravy, that we would inevitably like to dispense on to our plates. it was for those of us that were to young, to immature , too hungry ( or all of the above) to forsee the potential disasterous situation of the hostess... to run out of food !!!
For example... " Jim, can you please pass the peas and the FHB?"
"Dont put it down put it away!" ya.. ya..
"Do it well or not at all !" now this was contradictory, as i don't ever recall having the option of not doing the task...
Its better to be silent, and thought a fool, than to speak up and remove all doubt
This was actually Prez. Abe Lincolns saying i believe..
But I heard it from mum first, I dont know if she was referring to dad.. who was the silent type...
I am sure there are more, but I am out of time for reminicsing down childhood lane....

MUM

Hmmmmm, how do I approach this topic.. since its the repeat of my sayings or mini pontifications, maybe I wasn't even invited to participate!
I think my fun will be to hear the sayings that have been remembered ....and to see who remembers what...
There were probably sayings in the earlier days that may have been dropped and newer ones for the later kids that cropped up. . we'll soon see on the new blog version of an old attempt at a family newsletter and the revival of the forties file..
I remember sayings from 'my own' mother... that I don't think I used with you all, but that have come to me often over the years when I have needed them..
I'll send them in the blog comments.... in the mean time I'll wait to see what quotes have been immortalized...

EDEN
  • happy day
  • nothing on the floor anymore
  • don't put it down put it away
  • a layover for a meddler
  • it's not that they're thoughtless its just they don't think
  • in my day...
  • my generation...
  • I could spit nickles
  • old head on young shoulders
  • no whistling
  • that which we persist in doing becomes easier not because the nature of the thing changes but our ability to do it increases
  • continue to do what you've always done you'll continue to get what you've always got
  • it's between you and the lord
  • no gum till you're 8

Prompt: What to do with the spare room

When we moved into this house we had some decisions to make. There were 6 bedrooms and four children. We could all have our own rooms, including Patrick and I and end the discussion there... or we could all just bunk together and have 5 spare rooms to do with as we pleased. At first, that was the plan, but then we really moved in and as all plans seem to need tweaking, this one definitely did!

Patrick and I decided that since sharing a room had worked our for us in the past we would continue to do so in this house. The new house has bedrooms grouped as follows, 2 together, 3 together and 1 sort of on its own. The one on its own happens to be the largest room, with the smallest window and smallest closet in the most trafficked area. The decision finally was made to keep the two youngest boys together in a room and leave the larger less secluded room available for.... well for something...

Naturally we put the two boys sharing a room in the small strangely shaped room. Sarah somehow managed to convince Caleb that she should have the biggest of the rooms and has forever teased that when Caleb moves out she'll take over his room as a nice walk in closet. (That shows how small Caleb's room seems)

The bedroom arrangements actually have worked out well. As for Patrick and I we had to decide between what was intended as the master bedroom and the other small bedroom. Oddly enough we opted for the small bedroom and we now had the master bedroom and the large, oddly located bedroom to give usefulness to. A master bedroom has never been so well used! I likely spend 75% of my life in there. It is the best office / project / school room ever! We essentially live in this room. It's near the laundry, bathroom and kitchen. Near the front door, has internet access and a t.v.! Can you say efficiency!

But now the quandary of what to do with the extra room. We already have a living room and a family room, a semi-formal dining room, storage space, and even a cold storage area. We've bantered a few ideas around like a guest room, a play room, an exercise room, but having such an efficient upstairs area really has me thinking that the rest of the house should try to be efficient also. I mean a guest room actually could come in handy... almost every other week... but that's only at night and only sometimes... A playroom just screams MESS to me, and what do they do everywhere anyway?? It currently has a shelf along one wall and the greatest, comfortable (really it is) guest hideaway bed ever. (Come check it out for yourself and visit us!)

So, I put it out there to the people... well the people in my house and asked what they thought it would be best to use the room for. I told them anything goes, I just needed some ideas. Their responses didn't really help me but I enjoyed it anyway!

Sarah decided that an indoor aquarium was just what we needed. It shouldn't cost too much. Only a new glass door so we could see in, and make the whole room an aquarium with dolphins and we'd need to put a trap door in the ceiling so we could get in and swim with them.

Miles did indeed have a less expensive approach. He suggested that we cover the walls and floor with mattresses and then we'd have a wrestling room where no one would ever get hurt! (Because it's the walls that pin you and contort you....
right?)

Duncan who lives to be outside and is starting to feel the effects of cold weather hampering his outdoor time, decided that we should bring the sandpit in for the winter and put it in this room. Then we can build sandcastles in the house and wear our shorts in the wintertime!

Caleb... so sophisticated in his 13 years.... I'll move in to that room and Sarah can have my room for her closet now.

Eventually the use will present itself.. until then a dream room.... for really wild and out there dreams!!

Tia Favorita

It would appear that vying for favourite auntie status is a common goal in this family! Paige has done well in her endeavors to endear my children by sending packages over the years. She has a knack for finding the unusual items that no one else would think of. She inundates us with items whenever she learns that there is a collection of anything. She is happy to be on the lookout for the next boat, or cars paraphernalia, or bob the builder toy or whatever the moment has the kids hyped about, but the best thing she ever found she found completely of her own accord!

We were coming for a visit to her menagerie and when we arrived she had a little something for Duncan. He loved them, he immediately put them on and it has been difficult to get him to take them off ever since. They are the favored froggy boots or wellies! The boots were worn everywhere... with a tug of war some Sunday mornings when I wouldn't give in to allowing them to be worn to church. There have actually been two sets now. The first pair worn constantly from the time he was 2 1/2 yrs old, slightly on the big size until they just couldn't be squeezed into any longer. Paige was right on time with the second pair though. She had tracked down another pair in the next size through ebay so he wouldn't have to be without froggy boots!

The boots are from England, 'Wellies' or in this case 'wellipets' from the popular Wellington boot company. They are a great quality boot!

He has been wearing the boots for almost three years! We've prolonged the wearing time as much as possible by removing the lining even... but they are starting to show signs of being too small. Paige sent some larger owl boots but although they will be worn, they just haven't had the same excitement that the froggies did!

The smaller pair we sent on to Audrey who also has a passion for wearing them and when they came to visit this month she had her boots with her. We just had to do a little froggie photo shoot!
Ribbit

Science Class Pays off

Contrails or vapour trails are visible trails of condensed water vapour made by the exhaust of aircraft engines. As the hot exhaust gases cool in the surrounding air they may precipitate a cloud of microscopic water droplets. If the air is cold enough, this trail will comprise tiny ice crystals.

The wingtip vortices which trail from the wingtips and wing flaps of aircraft are sometimes partly visible due to condensation in the cores of the vortices. Each vortex is a mass of spinning air and the air pressure at the centre of the vortex is very low. These wingtip vortices are unrelated to the exhaust from the engines. They are sometimes known as vapour trails.

Otherwise known as.... jetstream...

Why, you may wonder am I going on about airpressure vortex contrail jetstream...blah blah blah and trying to pass it off as a blog!! Well I'll tell you!

As the driver to the airport the other day I was privy to a little conversation going on in the backseat between two sweet 5 year olds concerning air travel.

A - Audrey
D - Duncan

D: I saw your plane this morning so I know it is at the airport.
A: Was it a jetblue plane because we are flying on jetblue.
D: Yes there was really long jetblues in the sky.
A: It was really cool on jetblue, we got our own screens and I watched a great animal show. It was a National Geographic show and it was interesting. They showed the biggist fish in the ocean and all the sea creatures. It was very cool.
D: Mummy, did I go on a jetblue like Audrey?
Me: No, we went on a SouthWest airplane when we went to see Auntie Paige.
D: Oh yeah, I got snacks on the plane in a big basket but I can't eat them because they have nuts.
A: Well, my daddy really likes to travel on jetblue but I don't know if he knows about the screens. I told him about them when I phoned him. He has to fly to go to the job interviews and I think he will go on jetblue too.
D: I want to go on a jetblue too.
A: Just tell your mummy, my daddy knows how to buy the tickets so she can ask him.

Then today, as 'opus' the forever managing to escape beagle of ours, went for a little run to the neighbourhood school during recess and we chased after her to retrieve her once again.... Duncan stopped in his tracks and pointed to the sky exclaiming,

"Mummy, look at all the jetblues in the sky. They're making an 'A' for Audrey! Can she see them from her seat?"
Me: Audrey is already off the plane, she got home two days ago.
D: Can she see the sky at her house?
Me: Well, sort of. She can see the sky above her house, but this is a different section of sky above our house.
D: Can you take a picture. She would love to see jetblues trying to spell her name. She really likes jetblues and so does her daddy. They watched a movie about them and one about fish.

All right, so Duncan is obviously a little confused and is doing the best he can to make sense of the information he's processed even though he doesn't have a clue. He has a good heart and he misses his Audrey.

Sarah who just finished a weather unit in Science and was studying clouds responded to all this information in a mature fashion. "Don't tell him what it really is Mummy, it's nicer this way."

I guess it'll all get worked out in a science class some day....

DISCLAIMER: This is in no way, shape or form an endorsement of any airlines... I dislike flying on any aircraft equally.

Grandpa BC

We have been very fortunate to have three very different Grandpa's in our children's lives. Grandpa BC may just be a loaner grandpa but we'll take what we can get. He is really the Connolly grandpa but since the Connolly's are shared with me their grandpa gets to be shared with us! Grandpa BC is handy for building things, drawing things, singing songs with the kids, and full of tidbits of information. He recently moved into a complex with a pool just down the road from us and that made his place the best hangout for the summer!

Happy Birthday BC! May you always feel young at heart!

Movie Madness

This weeks Friday night good behaviour movie theater 'chez us', had a surprising twist. As soon as dinner was done we sent the order for P.J.'s and come back with your movie ticket wallets. (nothing fancy, just a ziploc baggie with their names on them to keep all their earned tickets in during the week) The kids promptly returned presenting all their tickets clad in their P.J.'s and found the request to then grab their coat and shoes very odd, but they did not question such an exciting twist to their normal friday night activity.

We then took off running down the street to our friends house where we had arranged to join up with their friends for a joint movie night! As soon as I arrived I began to question each of the friends children regarding their chores this week, how did they behave at dinner and did they do a service this week... Their parents deemed them worthy to earn their own tickets and we headed to the family room to start the movie. 'Kung Fu Panda'

Although my friend thought the idea of tickets and a concession stand that arrived (thanks Caleb) 30 minutes into the movie so they could all redeem their tickets, was fun and such a cute idea, she was concerned that I had now gone and ruined her life by making movie nights too much fun for her to keep up with! I assured her that tickets and concessions only happen when we join the theater and she is under no obligation to provide such things in the future!

The kids never caught on that they were being tricked into an unusually early movie night (movie started at 5:45), so that we Mummies could take off to go see Mamma Mia! They fell for our plan exactly as we hoped and were all tuckered out and ready for bed before 8:00!! ha ha ha!

Lightning McDuncan.. McAudrey...

Audrey living in an area that doesn't experience 'cold' temperatures rarely has the need for cozy footed pajamas. However here in November, even I have some fleece jammies! So, after the first night here as she stretched her 'way too small for her' jammies over her big girl body, we went on a hunt for the perfect jammies! Duncan, who has been wearing the same fleecy jammies for two years also was really in need of a pair himself. So the five year olds benefited from a very well timed (and practical) candy witch delivery of some matching Lightning McQueen jammies!
Excited with their new twin status night clothes, they promptly tried them on and wore them around the house most of that first morning.

Bed time those first few nights were exciting because it was time to put on the jammies! And they looked so sweet together in their coziness!

Sparky turns 18... the other one...

What to say about Neal...

From the time I first met Neal when he was only 3 years old he has shared his smile and sweet spirit. He was always coming to check on me, and see if I needed anything (had any goodies). This boy has a sweet tooth.
Growing up with a brother named 'Sparky' seemed very normal when you have siblings named Channa and Nova, many feel it is a name for a dog but I'd never actually known anyone with a dog named Sparky. My brother earned his name from Spock of Star Trek... so imagine the surprise when meeting Patrick's family for the first time I am introduced to 'Sparky'... and not one of the dogs!


Neal started out life with a few machines to aid him along and keep him going. Being hooked to all this equipment earned him a nickname as a
newborn which he hasn't completely shaken. {Now I must admit it didn't go as far as my poor brother who is still trying to shake it while he earns his PhD, as a husband and father of two... (good luck with that!)} I think the 'Sparky' name stayed a little closer to the ranch fortunately for Neal!

Now there are no flies on this boy... he learned some skills very young. Patrick had him carpentering by the tender age of 4, and I had him detailing a boat of a car, and painting murals. He could already out ride me on a horse, and sure knew his way around the willow trails even when I didn't. But Neal also was a clever sort. He will always go down in my books as the boy who could conceal his meals.


Each morning, Neal would get up with his family and have breakfast, and then as the older crew headed out to school he typically headed on down to Grandma's and had him a few elephant ears that Grandpa had ready for him. After a nice visit and waiting for Joe to be ready to join him, the two boys would be sent out to play... and they made it their duty to come check on Aunt Nova and baby Caleb. As luck would have it breakfast was served at my house on the other side of the 'crik' just about the time a little boy could leave Grandpa's pancakes and head out across the 'crik'. I'm not sure that I always had a great breakfast (some mornings oatmeal, others cream of wheat, or yoghurt and granola), but I do know that one little boy on the ranch was WELL FED by 9:00 in the morning!

Neal has grown into a kind and gentle young man and has a world full of opportunities waiting for him... Happy Birthday Neal.. stop by for breakfast anytime!

Mamma Mia

Wowee!! If a ladies night out is always as much fun as I had last night going to see Mamma Mia with the gals, then what have I been missing out on all these years? Can't remember laughing so much!! Loved it!
Not to worry Channa... we decided last night that you HAVE to see it and we'll gladly tell our husbands anything so we can take you! We really don't mind seeing it again... (I hear there is a matinee today!!)


Alliterating Names

Neal Nelson
Nova Noble
Channa Connolly
John, Jim, Jill, Joyce
Graton Gathright

Forties File Friday: Illnesses and injuries

Next week's question, "My mother always said...."
What stands out as phrases or sayings that make you think of Mum?

(just so there isn't any confusion as to what the next question is I thought I'd post it at the beginning of the blog!)

At go to presses time and in order they were received here are the answers to last weeks question. Tell of illnesses or injuries you've had. I will continue to add those who respond so don't feel left out... or off the hook!


EDEN


I have been very fortunate in my life and do not have many illness's to report, other than chronic migraines [yuk] i am generally very healthy.

When I think back to injuries there are a few that stand out in my mind...... I once grabbed onto a barbwire fence to prevent a fall and got my hand so stuck on a barb that my siblings took turns trying to free me.... I know you remember.....I once broke my arm while rollerskating, well more like while getting in the rink.
I have had many burns over the years, not sunburns but from careless cooking and baking, and curling irons. In more recent years I have seared my skin, forehead, ears and even arms on my flat iron. I don't think that's what they mean 'that it hurts to be beautiful'.
I have not had much luck with 2 and 3 wheeled vehicles. I bailed on a kids dirt bike.... I'm sure there's a pic somewhere of my face full of gravel.
Channa and I had a spill on her scooter some rainy night in the 80's.
I rolled down the hill in the field at Portland one summer on the 3 wheeler.

I cant really think of any other note worthy injuries, oh maybe I should note that I did fall off the loft at Hornby and managed to land on Mums wrought iron candle stick holders, sans candles they were.

So, really some butterfly bandages, 1 cast, stitches a few times, and a couple evenings in the hospital ain't a bad record for the last 28 years.

Forties File Friday: Illnesses and injuries - Nova

NOVA

I fell off the stage at church, bumped my head and went to the hospital for the night for a concussion I believe... maybe I dreamed that.

I fell off stilts at family camp. That I know I did.. and I was a GREAT stilt walker... although in my memory I believe I was indoors walking for some odd reason, and they were fairly tall stilts. Thinking back was this some kind of clown camp... I mean.. why was I walking on stilts? I couldn't have been more than 8 years old.

I was bit by a spider at yet another family camp. It was night and I was in my bed when I opened my eyes and there was the spider perched on my lip smooching away! AAHHHH... I had a snout thanks to the allergic reaction... I remember having trouble eating for the rest of the camp. I could barely speak it was so swollen.

I was stung by bees at Portland (Grandpa's). Sparky and I were on our way to explore near the old pig pen when I stepped on a bee hive. Everyone knows that when you are near a bee that is swarming around you, you're supposed to stay perfectly still and it will buzz off. So I did. I stood perfectly still... on the hive though... There were bees swarming and stinging me like crazy! Aunt Nancy, hearing the screams, came running to the rescue and knocked me down to the ground. I had fairly swollen eyelids and many large welts that day. (It happened to be the same day that Eden grabbed the barbed wire fence... so we kept Aunt Nancy busy that day... but of course barbed wire fence stitching trumps bee stings... so I just sat on the couch and read books quietly while everyone paid attention to Eden and her stitching...)

I hurt my thumb from being hit on my bike by a car backing out of a driveway while on way to school. I know I had it in a metal brace for sometime afterwords and there was some test at school that I didn't have to write.... so it must have been my right hand. (I think it was grade 3) I don't know if it was broken or just badly bruised and sprained.

I got a black eye thanks to a young boy at the beach trying to learn to skip rocks... and missing!

My hair has caused me some unnecessary pain over the years. It was always very long when I was growing up and once it got caught in a label gluing machine and I was attached with my head stuck in the machine for quite a few minutes waiting for help getting unglued. I also almost didn't make it to my graduation with my hair attached as i was curling my hair with a plug in the car curling brush that became VERY tangled in my long hair. {Fortunately it was removed... not without some tears, some singeing, and some trimming :-(}

My parents left us a couple of times growing up. Once they went to Europe with Dad's work and left us, the french speakers, with a sitter and once they went to Texas for a week to buy a house because we were moving there for Dad's work. It was during this week long trip that most of the kids were staying at Jim's I think and I was staying at home. I was just 16 and worked part time at a clothing store in the mall, got up early for seminary and had cross country practices and a big race that weekend, not to mention school(grade 11) squeezed in there somewhere. By the end of the week though I had the flu. I was sooo sick...
This is my mother's favourite story though!!... Because I was on the cross country team and like they say... every member of the team is important. I wasn't a 1st place runner but I wasn't the snail either... I placed from time to time but in cross country there are individual place winners and overall team placement winners... also a minimum team size to compete in some races. It just so happened that the race that Satruday required a minimum team size and I would have to race in order for our team to be eligible! I had to ride my bike from our house to Beacon Hill Park. I stopped to heave it up twice on the way there. I kept drinking though to stay hydrated. I put on my running cleats and took my mark at the start. I misstepped at the beginning and someone stepped on my foot with their running cleats. OUCH!! I ran the race. I felt like the tortoise in the race, slow and steady. I finished the race dead last! My coach and team were cheering me on so enthusiastically when I came in. Unbeknownst to me, runners from our team had placed 1st, 3rd and 6th. If I didn't finish... they didn't qualify! Thankfully for the overall team score we got to throw out the lowest placer so I didn't drag down the team score either! It was a 7.5km run. I finished, rode my bike home and crawled back into bed. I don't think I got out for 2 days.

I've been in a few car accidents in my lifetime, fortunately none too serious. I remember being in the big van during an unusual snow storm in Victoria. We started to slide and Dad hit a telephone pole. I also remember once, also in the van Dad having to stop really fast for something and I hadn't been buckled up. I flew from the back seat and hit the back of the passenger seat at the front. I quickly put on my buckle... I've forever been a clickit proponent since.
I remember going on a skiing trip with John and Jim. We drove a jeep up the mountain to the resort. On the way home I believe we either rear ended someone or were rear ended... obviously soo traumatic I can't remember the details!
I have been the driver for only one accident thankfully. It was in TX while driving the company car for my job. I had been running errands all day in Dallas and they called me on the carphone. It rang and it startled me. I ran a stop sign that was on the left hand side of the road in the median not on the right... so right there it was odd... but the phone definitely distracted me also. I smashed the truck pretty good into the side of another truck that was turning left across the lane in front of me! Paige had her big accident the next day so any thoughts of my injuries were quickly forgotten.

As for illnesses... luck has been on my side... I had to sit up to sleep with whooping cough when I was quite young, but other than some tricky pregnancies and a bout with Bells Palsy recently... I've had the typical colds and flus that are unavoidable... and have good health overall!

Christmas is coming

Christmas is coming the goose is getting fat... Please put a penny in the old man's hat, If you haven't got a penny, a ha'penny will do, If you haven't got a ha'penny God bless you.


Yes the time is here when thoughts begin to turn to Christmas. So what are your thoughts for how to handle Christmas this year??

Forties File Friday: Illnesses and injuries - John

JOHN

One less toe

I ‘m feeling old when I can tell stories about way back when I was little. When I was a little boys and Jim was even a year younger, we were at Grandpa Gathright's in Arkansas one summer. It was hot and humid and all the grown-ups were sipping lemonade and talking about family history so Jim and I went outside looking for adventure. They had a huge pond but, “ It was full of Poisonous snakes”. I think it was a ploy to keep us from swimming. We decided to walk barefoot around the pond to see if we could see the snakes. While we were barefoot snake hunting, we came across a huge old double bladed Axe stuck into a small trunk. Jim and I decided to pry it out and see if we could chop with it I was first to try I lifted it up over my head but the weight made me loose my balance and it came down hit the ground and cut up into my foot.

Actually I thought it was near miss because I really didn’t feel anything and we were standing in stall grass. It wasn’t until I tried to walk that I realized something was wrong and I looked down and saw one of my toes didn’t move like the other ones. It was badly cut and was not reacting to my brain messages to move.

Jim helped me and we limped back to the farm house to get help. It was a weekend and we had to run to a small town clinic for stitches. It was painful but I would soon learn the true meaning of pain. The regular doctor was not on duty and so a retired doctor with bad eyes and nervous condition where he uncontrollably shook, performed the most painful and blotched up stitching job I have ever had. Not to mention a very painful cleaning out.

My toe still isn’t normal but it responds to my brain most of the time which is pretty good there are other part of me like my appetite that near do!

The Rat Race

When I was 8 and Jim was 7 we were up visiting some family relatives on northern Vancouver Island. The adults were inside talking about family history and Jim and I decided to explore. The ocean had “ Sharks in it” so we to dig around in the forest and under the cabin looking for small creatures. Much to our great joy we found this huge rat and chased it out from under the cabin and into the woods. It ran but we were relentless and swatted sticks at it and a couple of times knocked it off its feet as we ran through the forest. A nice street hockey swing had sent it flying and it landed with a big thump against a tree. In the excitement of the hunt I lifted up our trophy by the tail to carry back to the cabin to show the adults. When all of a sudden it reared up and using the strength of its tail flipped up sunk his teeth into my finger. My fingers were small and his teeth were large and he went right into the bone and wouldn’t let go.

Sudden pain shot through my body and in a panic we ran into the cabin with the rat hanging from my finger. Because the rat hadn’t let go and he looked sick and crazy eyed it was decided that he had rabies. (truth was he was punch drunk from our beating) Soon he was pried off my finger rapped in a plastic bag a towel and went into the emergency room with me.

We arrive at the counter and the nurse asked what happened. As only a 8 year old boy can do, I excitedly plopped the rat on the nurses counter. There were screams and panic because it was still moving. They let us in with no wait, put the rat to sleep and tested me and the rat for rabies.

I didn’t have rabies and the rat was healthy, for a rat, but I was really bummed that we didn’t get to keep him.

Other incidents for future articles:
  • Right between the eyes with the Hockey Stick in our basement
  • Crippled for life on my first motor bike
  • Head on into a milk truck
  • Private parts stung in a tide pool
  • Instead of getting tips at the restaurant I lost my finger tip in the meat grinder (cutting lemons)
  • Fell of the roof
  • Nailed my foot to the floor

Forties File Friday: Illnesses and injuries - Jim

JIM
Way back in the summer of "75" a Father and his two sons went to the movies. The Odeon theatre was bustling with movie goers that night and the line for tickets snaked out the front door, down Yates street, around the corner and half way down Blanshard street. The father and his two boys got in line right in front of the Tandy leather craft store. The mood was upbeat and the 12 and 13 year old spoke a mile a minute while watching traffic and glancing at their Dad for reassurance. The Dad was relaxed and had the posture and clothes of a much younger man. The boys stood straight bolstered by preteen courage and peaked with anticipation as the front of the line neared. Closer and closer the trio came to witnessing the horrors of the SEA that would rattle them for the next two hours.

It was hot and crowded in the theater and the boy's hearts beat faster as the Dad scurried to get a place in line at the Snack bar. Juggling popcorn drinks and candy the Gathright men scrambled to find the last three seats in the middle of the row; which was way to close to the front. The movie had not yet started... but the cartoons had. Two of the three men snarffed back popcorn by the handful while the third sat there wondering why each piece of popcorn exploded with pain as it settled in the bottom of his stomach. The 12 year old became distant and melancholy.

The music started dunt dont dunt dont and the word JAWS splashed across the screen. popcorn was forgotten drinks were set on the floor and the talking stopped. The three settled back in their seats pushing their necks back straining to see the screen in its Technicolor fullness. The movie was intense, the mix of realism, and a powerful story was a thriller that island dwellers could relate too. Each were on the edge of their seats.

The brother and the Dad further entertained themselves by increasing taunting the youngest boy who was holding his left side and staring at the floor. Your scarred..Don't be a baby. No I'm sick! I'm in pain! the 12 year old retorted. You're a wimp! and the healthy two poked and prodded the third Sit up! Watch the movie!!. The youngest boy soon tuned them out and doubled over lapsing in and out of consciousness. He knew he was dying.

The night air brought the boy too as he stumble to the car...The boy had no recollection of how he got home but he recalls one of the older two saying maybe he really is sick...The next memory he had is being in the room of a Chaucer street home with a mom saying take him to emergency...Then a hospital bed and the familiar voice of Dr. Kardera saying it's his appendix. Admit him now!!

The appendix was out and 12 hours later the boy was emerging from the cloud of anesthesia with more pain than he started with... He soon recovered physically and made great friends with the nurses and marked on a piece of paper as each shot was administered, 17 in total. That boy is scared of the water and sharks to this day.... Mostly because he had to read the book to fill in the pieces of the movie that scared the appendix out of him.

Forties File Friday: Illnesses and injuries - Mum

MUM

It was 1950, and I was seven almost eight years old and off riding, on my less than lovely hand me down bike on Beach Drive near "Grandmas Beach". I lived on Hampshire Road, which was a considerable distance away. In those days, children were free and safe to go off on their own, bike riding, visiting friends, attending piano lessons, dentist visits or to go to play at the beach, or ball park.


I had a bag lunch in my bike basket, that was attached with strings to the handlebar, and looking forward to meeting my little friends to have our picnic at willows beach, when my front wheel hit a pot hole and over the handle bars I flew meeting the pavement head first.

Beach Drive was a busy road so I would not have been laying on the road long before someone stopped to help. I was knocked out for a few moments, (I was later told ) and had a huge egg develop on my forehead as a result. The good Samaritan that stopped, not knowing who I was, or how I was, picked me up and put me in his car, my bike in his trunk, and drove off with me to the Jubilee hospital.

I was able to tell my name and address, so my mum was called and she hurriedly walked to the hospital (no car, no license), when I was released we walked home together... walking my wobbly bike.

I recount this particular accident mainly to show what a difference there is in my childhood freedoms and that of my grand children. They would never be able to venture out on their own to spend a day at the beach. Samaritans would think twice or thrice, today about putting a little girl in their car! They'd be glad they had a cell phone and call the authorities, wait for an ambulance etc.. What a different day. I'd gone on that little picnic excursions many many times safely, so it wasn't considered risky to send a child off to meet the other little girls that were also allowed to bike to the beach for our play date.

My greatest sadness was not the lump on the head, or the missed lunch but the bent front wheel on my bike that would limit my future jaunts. Soon though, my wheel was straightened enough to send me off again, slight wobble and all.

CHILDHOOD ILLNESSI only vaguely remember my hospital stint at 4 or 5 years old.. when having tests done on my kidneys…What tests? What for ? I don't know. What I do remember is my dad telling the story of my mum being so concerned about me ….. being alone and left to handle the night away from home for the first time....…. In those days parents weren't allowed any special privilege of visitation. They could go only in the regulated visiting hour (not hours) 3 to 4 and 7 to 8 for the general population but only the afternoon slot was for visiting children. My mum had such anxiety of how I would be doing and coping and was waiting in plenty of time at the waiting wing for the visitors to be invited in. As she approached the door to the children's wing and nearing the actual ward room that I was in she heard a grand chorus wafting on the air waves. Opening the door she saw me sitting there conducting! Conducting Pentecostal songs that I had been teaching all the children! Ten children clapping their hands and singing at the top of their lungs.

My familiarity with those songs was a result of my regular attendance at a little Pentecostal Sunday school that was at the corner of my street. My family didn't attend that or any church, but since the early age of three and a half I had been allowed to walk by myself to the corner on Sunday mornings. Hair curled the night before in ringlets with two white bows in my hair and little black patent leather shoes, I strutted off and was learning to sing the gospel songs. I don't think my mum, until that very moment, knew what a repertoire of songs I had and how the exuberant joy of hand clapping songs had touched my little soul and turned me into a 'teacher', seizing the moment, until that hospital day. She recalled that I had no interest or time for her!

MEASLES
I had the Measles. There was no vaccine for measles in the forties, so I imagine almost every child had the disease (along with mumps and chicken pox). I had those too. In fact we were deliberately exposed to others with the disease so that we would 'get it ' and 'get it over with', before we got too old and hopefully 'caught' the childhood diseases before we went to school.

One of the complications of measles was severe damage to the eyes, if not blindness. This caution was stressed and the room was darkened for at least a period of time while the 'spots' were still 'coming out', a sign that the disease was in full blown activity and running its course.

I remember the strictness with which the need for 'dark' was enforced. I remember being so relieved when I was once again 'allowed to read'. The blinds had been pulled as well as an additional precaution of a blanket draped over the window. The confinement time was at least two weeks maybe more. School attendance was out of the question until every sign of 'the spots' was gone. Same with chicken pox, though I remember children coming back to school when the 'pox ' were still in the 'scabby' stage. We all understood having experienced our own anxiousness to get out of bed.

Being ill and away from school in those days meant being 'in' bed! No roaming the house, no joining the family for a meal, and rarely a visitor. You might as well have been confined to a hospital ward! Of course no T.V. and no such thing as a video to help while the hours away. Even the radio was a fixture in the living room. Anticipating the Sunday newspaper funnies was prominent on our entertainment list.

A 'chamber pot' was nicely covered with a towel at the side of the bed so that the trip to the toilet would not have to be made. Everything was right there to keep you in the room and 'in' bed. I remember the brown grocery bag with the top edge carefully folded over for stiffness and the bag being fastened to the side of the mattress with a safety pin. (This was to collect the toilet tissue that was used for a bad cold) Usually we used handkerchiefs, but when ill 'in bed' with a cold an exception was made for hygienic reasons so that the laundry would not be contaminated with the 'germs' of the patient. Kleenex tissues were not invented as yet or at least not introduced to our house. Those days tissue came on a roll… a toilet roll, and this garbage was burned as if it carried the black plague.

I said we had no visitors, but of course the doctor came to see you in the beginning of your confinement, to confirm your mums' diagnosis, and then the next day or so to quell her worries when you were in the most difficult stages of the disease, and then again later, to assess how well you were coping with the condition and the prognosis of the time to return to school. One would never consider 'taking' a child to the doctors' office, when it was ill. Or with something that required bed rest. Doctors made 'house calls' even for an elevated temperature. Any time of day or night. I had several bouts of 'the croup' as a child and remember Dr. Tysoe wearing a pajama top for a shirt in the middle of the night. It was 3 a.m. and as a little girl, I was impressed that I'd stayed up till that hour. I don't imagine any one else was!

P. S. Now thinking of the sessions with croup, no humidifiers in those days and no knowledge that cold air was better than hot. In order to confine the steam needed for a croup riddled child, a crude tent was made over the bed. This was difficult. Plastic was also not on the scene in the convenient forms that it is now. A small area was what was sought. I remember the bathroom with the tub full of constant hot water to steam up the room. I remembe however, more often being bundled in my snow suit, wrapped in blankets and put in our 1949 Ford car in the middle of the night (croup invariably came on in the middle of the night). My mum and dad ran back and forth to the kitchen bringing out steaming electric kettles borrowed from neighbours and pots with boiling water that would sit on the front bench car seat and do their task of steaming up the car. I wonder, in spite of all this effort, if it was the cold humid winter night air that would allow me to once again breathe.

Forties File Friday: Illnesses and injuries - E

VALERIE

When I was 8, I swallowed a staple. I remember, playing with the stapler, and putting one in my mouth. ( What was I thinking?!) I told my mother, who took me to urgent care. They did an x-ray, and found the staple in my upper rib area. The doctors said that if it didn't pass naturally, they'd have to surgically remove it. My sweet mother, spent the next week, bravely checking each bowel movement, until she found the staple. Needless to say, that was the end of my staple-tasting career.

PATRICK


I broke my leg skiing.

CHANNA

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PAIGE
Her official answer is: Ever since that head injury, I can't really remember!!

Elastics around her leg as a toddler. Almost resulting in having her leg amputated!
Rode a bike off the step by the back door at Haultain and cracked her head open and got stitches.
Some car accident at 15 years resulting in permanent selective memory loss forever after! This would be at the time that she joined the Bells Palsy club.
JILL

Thanks for doing this Nova, sorry I didn't get last weeks done, the short version of my injurys and illnesses submission..... pretty simple.. I am slightly retarded.. end of story.